How Do You Get A Guy To Like You?

shinto_grrl · Posted: Fri May 13, 2005 2:14 pm Post subject:

He's punk and I'm abstract, he doesn't like me much and I like him a lot, he hangs out in the 'popular herd' (herd. heh. ^^) and I'm, well...like I said...abstract! GOD I LIKE HIM, THOUGH!!!!!!!
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ThaKakarot · Oldbie Joined: 18 Mar 2005 Posts: 2246

if he doesn't take notice of you he ain't worth it love Wink

fallenangel · Posted: Fri May 13, 2005 3:32 pm Post subject:

Since you seem to know him so little (besides what he looks like and who he associates with), you haven't got much to like.

Go say hi and get to know him, or get over it. There is no "trick".
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PhunkYMunkY · Posted: Fri May 13, 2005 4:26 pm Post subject:

show ur boobs.. or.. ur bra if you have no boobs.

works for me.

ariel · Still very bored Joined: 31 Dec 1969 Posts: 298

hold a knife to his neck and demand him to like you
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keautye · Posted: Fri May 13, 2005 7:16 pm Post subject:

I can't give you any trick except.... Be yourself. Actually, there's a guy after me but... I don't love him. It's sad when you kow he's [i]literally[/i] crazy over me (He told me it). Just to give an idea... He listend to a music while staring at a wall, thinking about me!!!!! WTF?

When he told me that, I held up a scream (Of despare). Sometimes, you wish that what you wish for wasn't always there. (I wished for a guy to love me and now I sortta regret a bit...) Now I dunno how to tell him cause he doens't seem to understand that I just want to be frined with him (He get's it a bit though) but it make's about a month and half he told me!!!!

So stay who you are because people will learn to love [i]you[/i]. If you don't act as yourself, they'll go away when they'll find out who you really are and that would be really sad.

If you want a guy to love you. Let him come to you or try to creiuse him nice and slow. You can also hope but believe me... It doesn't do much. Go head first in it! Laughing

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fallenangel · Posted: Fri May 13, 2005 7:20 pm Post subject:

[quote]Actually, there's a guy after me but... I don't love him. It's sad when you kow he's literally crazy over me (He told me it).[/quote]

If he's the same age you are, it'll pass.
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Krystal · Member Joined: 06 Aug 2004 Posts: 76

Hey, i remember going through this in 7th grade, i really liked this guy and he was uber popular, but he hardly even knew who I was. It was so hard to let him go, and stop liking him, but i knew it was the right thing. it sucks that there has to be these "groups" and stuff at schools, but i guess theres nothing you can really do about it. and trust me, even if it does seem like you'll NEVER get over this guy, trust me, you will. That's how i was, i was all "No! im going to like him for the rest of my life!" heh, then finally i got over him. it took alot of time, but i did.

on a happier note though, it's always worth a try, right? i mean, youre probably not in the exact situation as me and probably have a better chance than i did. so i say try to be friends with him. i cant believe i just said that because i can hardly talk to the giuys i like. well, thats all ive got to say i guess, good luck! Very Happy

cherry-chi-hiwatari · Forum Stalker Joined: 23 Jan 2005 Posts: 1143

[quote="Animemaster2334 (Lindsay)"] she's perfect looking. She's a twig, she has wavy long blond hair with highlights. She looks like a blond Kelly Clarkson. What's worst of all she's shorter than him. Me, I'm 5'9 I have short curly plain brown hair, (I look like a friggin' hobbit!) [/quote]
*nods* i know the feeling well Sad

so he :

a ) dosent like you
b ) dosent notice you
c ) your completley different
d ) youve never even spoken to him

boy you chose a difficult target with this guy WTF?

try "talking"..not flirting every chance you get , unless you seriously want to freak him out in your first conversation...if he dosent seem intrested in you...forget him..dont waste your "love" on a guy who will never return it Smile

cherry-chi-hiwatari · Forum Stalker Joined: 23 Jan 2005 Posts: 1143

your welcome ^_^ .....i actually helped someone..wow...thats a first WTF?

just take a deep breath and say "hi" ..if you can get talking your halfway there Smile

fallenangel · Posted: Sat May 14, 2005 12:21 am Post subject:

[quote]What I hate most of all is that I'm a great person and he doesn't notice that[/quote]

Then he's not worth the interest.

No need to be catty just because a girl is attractive and dating someone.
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cherry-chi-hiwatari · Forum Stalker Joined: 23 Jan 2005 Posts: 1143

if they dont notice you then they're not worth the heartache..if they cant see you have a great personality then they're either too dumb of too shallow to bother with..

great words of wisdom there fallen Smile

fallenangel · Posted: Sat May 14, 2005 12:39 am Post subject:

My words were a bit more concise. Razz

Having a "great personality" is very subjective. [i]You[/i] may like yourself, but maybe you annoy the living hell out of him. You may have nothing in common and his Barbie of a girlfriend may share a lot of his interests. I like my personality, but it drives a lot of people crazy.

In the grand scheme of things, even if he did like you, it would be a short "relationship" that only ended with someone pissed, someone sad, and a whole lot to laugh at later in life. Puppy love and teen romance [besides making me ill] goes nowhere 99.9999999999% of the time. Consider his lack of interest a time saver.

And, I might add, no one can recognize someone's personality if that person never makes the effort to show it to them. Watching from a distance and wondering why they don't recognize that you're really smart or funny is rather counter productive.

Just make friends. Seriously. You shouldn't be fucking or deciding on how many kids to have or picking out curtains for the new house. A friend is all you need. If you truly like being around someone, all the better to be their friend for 10 years than their girlfriend for 10 weeks (or days) with a messy ending. But that's just my philosophy on the whole thing. So much less drama and stress.

(yes, there are obviously exceptions to the pointless teen romance rule, but since there's such infatuation without getting to know that person, I'm just gonna say this isn't one of them)
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cherry-chi-hiwatari · Forum Stalker Joined: 23 Jan 2005 Posts: 1143

[quote="fallenangel (fallen)"] My words were a bit more concise. Razz

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what i was trying to say was your "catty" remark was a good peice of advice...and...im just digging myslef into a deeper hole huh ? Sad

and all of that was so true fallen i have nothing left to say ....for once WTF?

fallenangel · Posted: Sat May 14, 2005 12:56 am Post subject:

Oh. Yeah. Well, it is true, I was just more trying to say "don't hate a pretty girl you don't know just because she has what you want". So often I see a girl walk by and hear others whispering "look at that girl, those boots don't fit her at all. She looks like a slut" when in reality they could/should just say "hey, I like your boots, where did you get 'em?".

Being catty gets you nowhere. Being friendly gets you everywhere (including front row at Velvet Revolver and four feet from Duff McKagan).

She very well [i]could[/i] be an airhead anorexic who is a sexual plaything for the guy, but in that case, why like him? Ain't it better to assume she's a nice person, and that's what he finds attractive about her?

I just deal with catty people too often. Sad

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unfocused · Moderator Joined: 17 Jul 2004 Posts: 6983 Location: Texas

[quote="fallenangel (fallen)"] Being friendly gets you everywhere (including front row at Velvet Revolver and four feet from Duff McKagan) [/quote]
WOW!

how friendly [i]were[/i] you? <_<
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shinto_grrl · Posted: Sat May 14, 2005 1:30 pm Post subject:

^_^ It used to be a whole lot of guys liked me, but now all the guys I like end-up not giving a s**t about me.
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fallenangel · Posted: Sat May 14, 2005 3:05 pm Post subject:

[quote="unfocused (James)"] [quote="fallenangel (fallen)"] Being friendly gets you everywhere (including front row at Velvet Revolver and four feet from Duff McKagan) [/quote]
WOW!

how friendly [i]were[/i] you? <_< [/quote]
Wouldn't [i]you[/i] like to know. Wink

Two girls dressed to the nines pushed their way up front after arriving shortly before show time (I waited 3 hours outside), flirted a guy out of his spot, and invited me to join them. It was general admission, so no need to be friendly to security for good seats. Duff's wife was there, anyway. :P

Although the number of catty women at shows like that is mind blowing. Heaven forbid the outgoing girls who dressed nice get passes, and the ones in dirty jeans who didn't put in the effort didn't. Rolling eyes

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shinto_grrl · Posted: Sun May 15, 2005 10:09 am Post subject:

><+++++++++ HA!
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Bahl_Rohg · Still very bored Joined: 27 Jun 2004 Posts: 282

If anyone actually makes a thread about how to get a guy to like them they must be either idiots or losers. If you like a guy because he is in the "popular crowd" than you won't get him. Thats more of a fantasy than a reality. So my suggestion for you is to just lean back every night and do the five finger shuffle...or would that be two fingers...